What Would You Do?
What Would You Do?
Most of us often plan our lives. I know I planned my life. Early on my plan changed; I fell in love and we were married. We then made plans around love and health.
Throughout your married life you hear of others that become divorced; you then fear that if that happened you’d fall apart and not make it. You learn to live and need that love; you learn to lean on one another. It is said that divorce or losing a love is always a possibility. What if you become so used to it and it falls apart? Will you survive that pain?
You go on living but the pain goes on but eventually after time has passed you no longer feel the pain.
What happens when all your plans fall apart?
It is not the love you lost but your health. The plans you made brutally changed. Not only can you not do the daily things that you’ve grown accustomed to, like being able to rise out of bed and cannot. Or, being able to walk across the room but only shuffle. Or, being able to open your eyes to see your surroundings but seeing nothing. Or, waking to the sound of your husband snoring but hearing nothing.
The list is endless. Each day brings anxiety because you are unaware of what you may or may not be able to do. You remember when each day you arose, you had an idea of what you were going to do. You grew accustomed to awakening then taking a shower, brushing your teeth and doing whatever was necessary to accomplish what you were scheduled to do. You never thought or had a fear that one day you would awaken not being able to move.
What if the continuity that you’ve learned to love has completely vanished in an instant? What do you do when the life you’ve become used to has fallen apart? Will you survive that pain? Will you be able to cope with your limited capabilities? You learn to adapt but the pain goes on. It is like dying but the pain goes on. The only difference is that death ends but this horrible disease seems to go on forever.
There are many roads in life. The course you may have outlined for yourself may not be the road you travel. But ultimately, I think George Elliot says it best: It is never too late to be what you might have been.
What would you do if your entire life has fallen apart?
What would you do?
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